Music has the power to heal and gives us the strength the choose our “emotional tone.” The team at Girlology is encouraging mothers to give their tweens the gift of music on Valentine’s Day as a way to teach them to take charge of their inner rhythm. 

The teenage years bring about heightened academic demands, physical changes, and pressures to define one’s own identity. In addition, there is a rewiring of the brain for new emotional attachments, more advanced cognitive capabilities, and reproduction. All these changes can create intense emotions and overwhelming mood swings.  One of the first steps towards balancing those whirlwind emotions is to learn to be mindful of the positive events we can create...

Back in the day, nothing said “I love you” like a mix-tape, right? So why not give your daughter a special old-school gift with a contemporary spin: a playlist of songs that can raise her spirits and her confidence.

There’s no cassette player needed. Just use our playist of girl empowering songs, add a few more of your own favorites, and burn the playlist to a CD or send it as a gift to her via itunes or spotify. Our songs are all fairly recent ones, but there are LOTS of great songs that take us back  a little... or WAY back!

An uplifting playlist is a powerful tool to keep in her emotional management toolbox. It’s also the perfect playlist to listen to in your car when you’re driving her around (or when you need the...

February is Teen Dating Violence Prevention Month. It's a real problem that affects girls and guys from all walks of life. In fact, 1 in 5 teens who have been in a serious relationship report being hit, slapped or pushed by their boyfriend or girlfriend.

As tweens and teens explore dating, it is critical that they begin to understand what's ok and what's NOT ok in a relationship. As a newbie with a love interest, jealousy may be seen as romantic, and...

Before you get close, get the facts. 1 in 4 teens will get an STD. Protecting your health is key. Sexually transmitted infections can happen with skin to skin contact, not just "sex." If you're having sex, get tested. If you're thinking about it, protect yourself. 

Dr. Amy Cooper, Girlologist and Gyn Cancer Specialist, shares an emotional story of diagnosing cervical cancer and taking her son to get vaccinated. It's about cancer and cancer prevention.

 

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She has almost no expression on her face the first time I meet her. She is so reticent that I can’t be certain if she speaks Spanish or English or both. As it turns out, she speaks both and is more comfortable with English. She has been emergently transferred from an outside ER for vaginal bleeding to the point of hemorrhage. She needs to have a pelvic exam and the hospital room beds don’t have stirrups. My office does. The CT scan in the ER revealed a pelvic mass...

Watch this video to learn who we are, what we do, and how we can help YOU talk about IT. 

Every year, I seem to get at least one phone call from a panic-stricken mom with a child in the fourth grade. It usually goes something like this (in a flustered whisper), "Help!! My precious, innocent little [insert child's name] just came home from school and told me that one of her friends told her what sex is.

When I asked her what she was told, her description included words like 'under the sheets,' 'wiggling,' and 'poking.' She seems upset and scared. Now what do I do?!?!"

That's the reality with late elementary age children. There will always be some kids in the class that have older siblings who have shared "the big secret" about sex. Or perhaps there's a precocious child who has developed his or her own...

Songwriter girl camp. I don’t know. It sounded a little too Disney-channel for me. But, it wasn’t for me or even for girlology. It was for my daughter who sings [constantly, I’ll add with a smile] and is interested in the art and craft of songwriting.

So with guitar, hook book, and a hand-held recorder, we boarded a plane for Nashville and headed to Songwriter Girl Camp.

What my daughter got out of it is worth her own blog, or rather, her own song—which you might just hear on the radio one day. What I got out of it is even bigger than that (for me). It was confirmation. Assurance. Another verse for my anthem. My girl anthem. Uh huh. Oh yea. Girl power, girl strength, girl wisdom, girlosophy. I was watching things that I...

Pre-School? You think I’m kidding, don’t you? But if you have a pre-schooler, you know how curious they are! Just a few days ago, my four year old asked me, “How can I get a baby in my tummy?” Now, there’s a talking opportunity!

So, being the sex educator that I try to be, I jumped right in to that teachable moment (even though I was tempted to divert the conversation with something like, “How about an ice cream sandwich?”).

Believe it or not, pre-school is the perfect time to begin important conversations that will establish you as your child’s sexuality educator and help your child feel comfortable coming to you with all those awkward but important questions.

Whether you are talking about it or not, a child is...

I’m not talking about man-boobs, although there’s plenty to blog about there.  But I have to share a story about my husband, a girlology dad. First of all, let me say that both of the Girlology husbands (dad’s) are very girl-oriented…er, girl focused…girl centric…girl crazy! They can talk breasts, hair management, tampons and periods with the best of us.

Being married to us makes that a requirement. But Michael, my husband out did himself on this one.

Being the handy Girlology Dad that he is, he actually made Anne Claire, my oldest daughter, a velcro-closure, adjustable bra out of……duct tape. It actually came out pretty well, but not something she would ever wear in public until maybe college and some worrisome frat party...

Puberty at age seven? Normal? The research is telling us that seven is the new eleven when it comes to girls and puberty.

But I have a feeling Mother Nature is not entirely on board with this one. 

Neither am I.

It seemed like a healthy thing at first.  In industrialized societies from the mid 19th century to the mid 20th century, the average age of menarche (first period) decreased from 17 years to 13 years.  The change was attributed to widespread improvements in nutrition and health.

More recent studies have shown that over that last half century or more, the age of menarche has stabilized around age 12, but the onset of puberty, particularly breast development has continued to decline –...

I got a phone call from the middle school today. The voice on the other end was hard to identify because of the sobbing between rushed hysterical phrases.  Oh god. The last time I had a phone call like that, my oldest daughter had been involved in a car accident.

Finally, intelligible words came, “I…..have……head…..lice! You….have to….come….. get…..me.”

Apparently, someone brought a nasty case of head lice into our quiet, well-behaved school. Rumor has it that it was passed along through the Rosetta Stone headphones. And somehow, the entire girls volleyball team was infested, too. But they’re all so “clean” and “nice.” How could it be?

Isn’t that how we all think?  Not MY kid. Not at OUR school. Ewwww. I know it’s...

Puberty is inevitable, but every girl has a unique experience and handles it in her own way. You can help make it a positive experience by helping your daughter know what to expect and reassuring her that some of the weirdness is actually normal!

To help her (and you) know what’s coming, here’s a brief overview of “the order of things”

  • Feet and hands grow first.
  • Breast buds are next for about 85% of girls.
  • Remember that one side usually buds first as a hard, sometimes tender, knot under the areola. The other side will bud within a short time usually, but sometimes it takes up to 6 months.
  • Shortly after breasts bud (a sign of circulating estrogen), she will begin to have vaginal discharge (...

Early in the fall, my daughter excitedly told me she had a “bud.”  Not a buddy, but a bud – as in breast bud.  Thanks to loose T-shirts, wearing a bra was not on her radar, but with the school year, came uniforms and tighter shirts.  That meant “they,” meaning the buds,  became a little more noticeable.

So one day before school, she looked down and saw the bump beneath her shirt and just decided to keep pulling the shirt out a little so it wouldn't look so tight. That night I heard  her up in the attic and didn’t know what she was up to. I decided to investigate and saw her rummaging through my collection of bras that I use for our girlology programs. She would put each and every one  of them up to her, like that would ensure...

One of our most frequently asked questions is, “When do we have the talk… You know, the sex talk.” The Girlology mantra, as well as my own, has always been eight is great. Great, that is, until this year when my youngest daughter’s eighth birthday was fast approaching.

She’s less mature than her sister was at that age, a circumstance that seems to be a common concern in many families.

Before either girl had turned eight, a friend shared a touching story about how she and her husband explained the secrets of life to their daughter on this birthday. It sounded magical and informative, such a well-rounded success, her father and I thought we’d do the same. We began with the facts, since that is where most magic is rooted,...

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