Girlology is thrilled to be a small part of a huge project that is improving the way kids learn about sex and sexuality. Amaze.org has created animated videos (fun, accurate, humorous, goofy...just the way we like them!) that give kids all the answers they actually want to know about sex, their body and relationships. The video on menstruation was developed from our our You Got IT ebook, and our Co-Founder, Dr. Holmes, serves as an Advisory Panel member providing feedback and input on all of the videos. 

Check out their website (amaze.org) and YouTube channel (Amaze...

Pimples are problems for a lot of tweens and teens. Even though you may keep your skin squeaky clean, you may still get pimples, also known as zits or acne.

Acne is your body’s response to changes on your skin’s surface. It can occur all over your body, but most commonly shows up on your face, chest or back. Whether or not you have acne has a lot to do with your genetics -- did your parents have acne? If so, you probably will, too.

 

Besides genetics, acne is caused by 4 things:

  • Increased sebum (oil) production. This happens around puberty because hormones tell your skin to make more oil-producing glands which create the sebum.
  • Clogged pores....

When parents started asking us to offer a program on sex as a follow up to our puberty program, we hesitated. It’s one thing to talk with our own kids or write blogs about “talking with your kids about sex,” but it’s a whole new ball game when we actually talk to your kid for you!

But if you know us, you know we didn’t hesitate very long. Not only were we up for it, we’re loving it!

Our Reproduction programs are quickly becoming our favorites. The kids, 5th and 6th graders, are so very ready for the information. Most of them have already heard some gossip about sex, but they are definitely fuzzy on the facts. And the parents - many come in a bit squirmy and anxious, but they all leave with a sense of relief that the topic...

To understand the term “bisexual,” it’s important to understand some basics about sexuality - and that’s a big topic! 

Sexuality is a term that describes how people feel and act with respect to their "male-ness" or "female-ness" and how they express their romantic and sexual feelings for others. Sexuality may seem confusing when you’re young, because it develops over time, may change over time, and is influenced by many things including your biology, family, beliefs, experiences, and relationships.

Your sexuality includes a lot of things, such as…

  • Biological sex: Were you born with female or male chromosomes and body parts?
  • Gender Identity: In your mind, do you feel...

If you (or someone close to you) has noticed a new not-so-nice smell floating around you, it’s probably puberty - well, it’s body odor caused by puberty. But don’t worry! We can help!

You probably already know that your hormones change pretty quickly as you enter puberty. But don’t let hormones worry you. They are just chemical messengers that help your body parts communicate with each other. 

As you enter puberty, there’s a hormone that makes your skin become more oily and another that causes your sweat glands to make more sweat. When your sweat and oils mix, they create a yummy “soup” that gets slurped up by the bacteria that normally live on your skin. As the bacteria munch on your body soup, they put off stinky smells...

I wasn’t totally surprised when I found out (from another mom) that my 6th grade daughter* had a “boyfriend.”  I had noticed the flirtation and bigger-than-usual-smile when he was around.  Besides, I was in the 6th grade once, too.   Back then, we called it “going steady.”  Today, I hear it’s called “going out.”

I knew better than to say what I said, but it just slithered out of that dorkey-parent-talk space that materializes when you have children. 

“I heard you’re going out with Sam.*  So… where are you going?”

If you have an adolescent daughter, you can imagine the response.

I wasn’t making fun of her BF interest, just trying to keep it “light.”  I just didn’t want her to think that we were diving head...

This post is part of the Office on Women’s Health’s Know The Facts First campaign’s  Back-to-School Blog Relay which will run from August 8 – 12, 2016. Follow the relay for STD and STD prevention information and resources to make sure you’re armed with the facts before school starts!

I recently asked a room full of 5th and 6th graders to anonymously write down what they had heard about sex from their friends or parents. Although a few wrote, “nothing,” the rest had heard plenty. 

Some of their (mostly inaccurate) reports were about “how” sex happens, “the dude touches the lady with his penis.” But most of the others reported soundbites like, “You have to use a condom” or “You can get AIDS.” Then there was one...

When girls and women talk about cramps, they are usually referring to menstrual cramps, not just a leg cramp (although girls have plenty of those, too!). Cramps happen because the uterus, which is made of muscle, squeezes to release the endometrial lining that makes up a period. As the uterus squeezes, it can cramp, just like any muscle that works hard.

The most effective treatments for cramps are 

  1. EXERCISE. Taking a brisk walk or a slow jog are a great way to reduce menstrual cramps. We’ve heard from many girls that when they are involved in daily sports practice, they don’t have very much pain with their period, but when they are off season and less active, their cramps are worse. Scientific...

As they leave elementary school and head into the hormone filled hallways of middle school where kids roam in herds instead of single file lines, and shiny cell phones replace plastic collectibles in the bus line, you can’t help but worry about whether you’ve prepared your child for life on this new academic and social planet. While you still have a little summer left, now is the perfect time to help your child pack their back-to-school toolbox with stuff that will make life easier in middle school and beyond.

Here’s a list you can start with. Talk about each tool in this list, and give your kid a head start on mental and social health skills. 

People who believe in her. Parents matter a lot, but it’s...

QUESTION OF THE WEEK: How much vaginal discharge is normal? 

Vaginal discharge is the creamy, clear-to-whilte-to-yellow stuff that oozes out of your vagina. It normally starts early in puberty, around  the same time your breasts bud, because both of these changes are caused by estrogen, the main puberty hormone for girls. Even though you don't hear a lot of people talk about discharge, all girls and women have it. It's actually the way the vagina cleans itself and stays moist and comfortable. When it comes out, it usually has a milky or creamy appearance, but when it dries in your underwear, it can look darker yellow and become "crusty." It's usually enough to lightly stain the crotch of your underwear, so yes, that's normal,...

The average age that girls start their first period is 12.5, but it can happen anytime from ages 9 to 16. That’s a big range, so how’s a girl to know when it's really on its way? 

Wouldn’t it be nice to get a text message or a post card in the mail to tell you when to be ready for your first period? Yeah, that’s not gonna happen. But don’t worry, there will definitely be some signs that you are getting close to the big day!

You can know it’s on its way when you notice these signs:

  • Your breasts have progressed past breast buds and you have a mound of breast tissue (size doesn't matter - it’s the rounded shape that matters). This is usually 18-24 months after your breasts bud.
  • Your...

As we teach children about their changing bodies, we can’t forget to teach them about what’s happening to the opposite gender. Whether or not your boy is anywhere close to puberty himself, the girls are changing as early as 2nd grade. Giving him a basic understanding goes a long way to help him feel informed, decrease anxiety about what’s ahead, AND improve his support for peers who may be blooming early.

Here’s our list of things a boy needs to know as he faces puberty blossoming among the girls. Let us know what you would add!

  • Girls go First. Let him know that girls’ bodies usually start to change before boys’ do, sometimes as early as 2nd grade. Since the first outward sign of puberty for most...

“If you’re like most girls, there was no warning or announcement. It just showed up. Maybe you were totally surprised, and maybe you’d been waiting for it — like, forever.” 

Our newest book, You Got IT: Everything You Need to Know When You Start Your Period by Drs. Holmes & Hutchison, provides all sorts of knowledge as well as tips and tricks for managing your monthly. But in addition to knowing the facts, girls also want to know how it happened for other girls and women. What's your period story? Where were you? How did you manage? Were you surprised? Scared? Everyone seems to have some memories about their first period. Your story might be just the one that helps another girl feel more normal or...

Exposure to pornography among adolescents has become so common that it’s been described as a normative experience by experts in child safety and child development. According to 2008 data, 93% of boys and 62% of girls are exposed to pornography during their adolescence. Although boys are much more frequent consumers of porn, many girls check it out at the request of their boyfriends or just out of curiosity. That means all kids need to hear the truth about pornography and how it’s affecting their emerging sexuality. 

Conversations about pornography are awkward, no doubt. But it can be part of a larger discussion about  healthy sexual development. As with other “sex talks,” this is not ONE conversation, but an ongoing dialogue...

Looking back at fifth grade, it was a rough time for me...REALLY rough.  Before this, I struggled with being “different” because I was one of the few Indian students at school.  After dispelling many rumors about my culture, (“No, I don’t know how to charm a snake... No, I don’t have to wear a dot on my forehead”), I thought life would get a little easier, but then, all of a sudden, I had BOOBS.  Seriously. They seemed to come out of NOWHERE. I was flat as a pancake one day and curvy the next. How could that happen?

I quickly realized that I HAD to wear baggy clothes and avoid making any sudden movements if I didn’t want the two blobs on my chest to jiggle. Ugh. I hated my boobs because no one else seemed to have them in my...

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